A white woman's opinion of black women & a brother's response
Please take a moment and read this. It's Pretty Deep! Thumbs up
to this black man. Enjoy.
It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by
a
Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men.
Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male
readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,
educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's
attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me
because
the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they
were
either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too
materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became
engaged,
whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing
to
wine
and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms
about us
being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some
changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out
in
public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so
appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of
26
years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson
Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry
Belafonte,
Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry
Gordy,
Billy
Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on. But,
right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so
hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat
your
men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl,
Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with
a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at
a
major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use
my
precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record
straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of
the
biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were
considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised
in the
church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity
and
who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would
look
for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So,
they
turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers
date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot
of
black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses,
have
become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid
that
our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us,
drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many
black
men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have
talked
to
numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is
to
control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record
straight.
I want Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men
date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris
Chestnut,
Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds,
Samuel L.
Jackson,
and Chris Rock all married strong black women and, to flip the script,
there are
numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or
secretly
desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and
David Bowie
to name a few. I just don't want disgusted white girl to be
misinformed.
Stop thinking that because you are white, that you are some type
of
goddess.
Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris
were
Ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the
caves
of
Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
clubs.
Read your
history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season
your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise
your
children. It was the black women who were breast feeding and raising
your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure
watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and
thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them:
being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still
They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love
and
beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is
not
just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not
the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that
I
love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about
black
women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their
integrity,
their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand
for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed And
reach
their highest potential while enduring great pain and Suffering is
why I
have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your
anger
is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks.
If
this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons
to
darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you
just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your
lips, hips, AND breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so
you
can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really
a
result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over
and
control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately for you, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a Good wife and
mother
to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands
my
struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister
and,
fortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
yours,
Black Royalty
Wow!! We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens of our
acquaintancies
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